Romantic addiction

" The eighth insight also warns about the addiction to people and explains why power struggles arise in romantic relationships.
When love first happens, the two individuals are giving each other energy unconsciously and both people feel buoyant and elated.That's the incredible high we all call being 'in love'. Unfortunitly, once they expect this feeling to come from the other person,they cut themselves off from the energy in the universe and begin to rely even more on the energy from each other--only now there doesn't seem to be enough and so they stop giving each other energy and fall back into their dramas in an attempt to control eachother's energy their way. At this point the relationship degenerates into the usual power struggle.
The problem starts in our early family. Because of the energy competition there, none of us were able to complete an important psychological process. We weren't able to integrate our opposite sexual side.
The reason we can become addicted to someone of the opposite sex is that we've yet to access this opposite energy ourselves. The mystical energy that we can tap as an inner source is both male and female. We can eventually open up to it,but when we first begin to evolve we have to be careful. The integration process takes some time. If we connect prematurely with a human source for our female or male energy, we block the universal supply."

- The Celestine Prophecy