Control drama

"The sixth insight shows us that in order to stay connected to this unlimited source of energy we have to break a psychological cycle we develop in our childhood of how we manipulate others for energy.This is called a control drama.
The first step in the process of getting clear,for each of us,is to bring our particular control drama into full consciousness.Nothing can proceed until we really look at ourselves and discover what we are doing to manipulate for energy.

Each of us must go back into our past,back into our early family life,and see how this habit was formed.Seeing its inception keeps our way of controlling in consciousness.Remember,most of our family members were operating in control dramas themselves,trying to pull energy out of us as children.This is why we had to form a control drama in the first place.We had to have a strategy to win our energy back.It is always in relation to our family members that we develop our particular dramas.However,once we recognize the energy dynamics in our families,we can go past these control strategies and see what is really happening.

Everyone manipulates for energy either aggressively,directly forcing people to pay attention to them,or passively,playing on people's sympathy or curiosity to gain attention.
A person threatening you would be pulling you into the most aggressive kind of drama,the 'intimidator'.
An interrogator is another kind of drama.People who use this means of gaining energy set up a drama of asking questions and probing into another persons world with the specific purpose of finding something wrong,then criticizing this aspect of the others life.
If,on the other hand,someone tells you all the horrible things that are already happening to them,implying perhaps that you are responsible,and that,if you refuse to help,these horrible things are going to continue,then this person is seeking to control at the most passive level,what's called a 'poor me' drama.
The last control drama is one of 'aloofness'.It is the act of withdrawing to look mysterious and secretive.You tell yourself that you're being cautious but what you're really doing is hoping someone will be pulled into this drama and will try to figure out what's going on with you,in the process,giving you energy."

- The Celestine Prophecy