A beautiful mind

"Once you have identified with some form of negativity, you do not want to let go, and on a deeply unconscious level, you do not want positive change. It would threaten your identity as a depressed, angry, or hard-done-by-person. You will ignore, deny or sabotage the positive in your life. This is a common phenomenon. It is also insane.

Every addiction arises from an unconscious refusal to face and move through your own pain...you are using something or somebody to cover up your pain. That is why, after the initial euphoria has passed , there is so much unhappiness, so much pain in intimate relationships. they do not cause pain and unhappiness. They bring out the pain and unhappiness that is already in you. Every addiction does that.

Nobody chooses dysfunction, conflict, pain. Nobody chooses insanity. This happens because there is not enough presence in you to dissolve the past...You are not fully here. You have not quite woken up yet. In the meantime, the conditioned mind is running your life....if you are one of those people who have an issue with their parents, if you still harbour resentment about something they did or did not do, then you still believe they had a choice--that they could have acted differently. It always looks as if people had a choice, but that is an illusion. As long as your mind with its conditioned patterns runs your life, as long as you are your mind, what choice do you have? None. You are not even there. The mind-identified state is severely dysfunctional. It is a form of insanity. Almost everyone is suffering from this illness in varying degrees. The moment you realise this, there can be no more resentment. How can you resent someone's illness? The only appropriate response is compassion. "

- Eckhart Tolle (The power of the NOW)