Pourposefully

- Okay. So I want to find the tools for a long-term relation­ship - and you say entering relationships purposefully is one of them.
- Yes. Be sure you and your mate agree on purpose. If you both agree at a conscious level that the purpose of your relationship is to create an opportu­nity, not an obligation - an opportunity for growth, for full Self expression, for lifting your lives to their highest potential, for healing every false thought or small idea you ever had about you, and for ultimate reunion with God through the communion of your two souls - if you take that vow instead of the vows you’ve been taking - the relationship has begun on a very good note. It’s gotten off on the right foot. That’s a very good beginning.
- Still, it’s no guarantee of success.
- If you want guarantees in life, then you don’t want life. You want rehearsals for a script that’s already been written. Life by its nature cannot have guarantees, or its whole purpose is thwarted.
- Okay. Got it. So now I’ve got my relationship off to this very good start.” Now, how do I keep it going?
- Know and understand that there will be challenges and difficult times. Don’t try to avoid them. Welcome them. Gratefully. See them as grand gifts from God; glorious opportuni­ties to do what you came into the relationship - and life - to do. Try very hard not to see your partner as the enemy, or the opposition, during these times."

Donald Walsch (Conversations with God)